Five alive! That's right, already on day five and keeping it alive with a new post.... even though that brand of drink is out of commission.. oh well, it rhymes.
Last entry I introduced you to the idea of self trauma, and challenged you to think of the ways of how you might have fallen victim to this. So today we are going to talk about negative self talk.
I know that I say negative things to myself all the time, even if they are not true, such as 'You aren't doing enough.' Even though I have many projects on the go at one time. 'You are ugly. Not good enough. Not successful enough. People feel obligated to be around you.'
Very nasty things like this have really effected my self-esteem, the way I see myself, and consequently, my weight. You do not need to be fat to have negative self talk. However societal expectations are geared to being thin. Self deprecation is a way to keep women in particular from appearing to be successful. These negative self statements are powerful and the more they are thought and the longer they are believed the more each one of us needs to comfort ourselves from the pain.
What are your negative self statements?
Dr. Laurie states that, 'negative self statements can't be heard by anyone else and when a negative self statement goes off in the individuals mind, there is an immediate emotional reaction, and in order to sooth the sting of the resulting emotion the pain needs to be avoided and overeating is a fabulous way to avoid pain.'
On the quest to lose 50 pounds in a year. Can she do it? Only time will tell....with the help of this blog.