I absolutely LOVE Melissa McArthy!
When I first started out in comedy she was, and still is, my idol. I loved her presence on the screen, her humour, and her attitude. I can’t deny however, that a big part of why I was attracted to watching her movies was also because she looked like me, she has brown hair, is heavy set, and runs weird, all things I can identify with, and people loved her! She was in the spotlight! People found her just as funny as I did! This motivated me into comedy because it showed me that I could do it too! I didn’t have to be a blond, tall, thin, woman with sexually charged material, I could be me! And every time I was complimented with “you remind me of Melissa McArthy!” or “if you work on your physicality, you could be just as funny as Melissa McArthy!” or even “you look like Melissa McArthy!” I would be ecstatic!
McArthy has been scrutinized a lot by the public over her weight, which I find interesting because she rarely mentions her weight in her movies, and she plays the role of herself. Most of the time when you think there is going to be a comment on her weight in a movie, it is sidelined by a different topic, like in Bridesmaids “I never bloat, I don’t know why, it’s a blessing.” and the other bridesmaids nod and it’s never mentioned again. The only movie that I remember it clearly being mentioned in was Tammy, but that movie didn’t do well at all. At the beginning of Mike and Molly the couple met at Overeaters Anonymous and weight was a topic that did keep coming up.
I also find that it is hit or miss with men, sometimes it is made into a big deal, and sometimes it is not. Kevin James for instance uses his weight in his comedy and you never see it in the news about his weight, you never see him in the news in general any more, but I digress. Someone like Jonah Hill however had a lot of scrutiny for his weight, there is even a Youtube video that is called, ‘Jonah Hill Just Can’t Catch a Break’, showing how he gets bullied by Hollywood, that is a compilation of all the times he was publicly shamed for his weight.
The body shaming in Hollywood is deplorable, for both men and women… but mostly women. Melissa McArthy says that she was able to lose the 75 pounds that she lost over the past couple of years, by paying attention to her eating, she found that her former hectic lifestyle prevented her from focussing in on what she was eating. Early mornings and late nights and not enough self reflection caused her to gain the weight, she commented. In other words she is a stress (emotional) eater. I imagine that it would be hard to have everyone constantly focussing on your body all the time. She was able to stop stress eating with minimizing the stress in her life, going to bed at 7:30 pm, occasionally. She is an actress as well as working on her business as a clothing designer, and I’m sure it helps that she is now very rich.
For those of us that are not rich, life can still be very stressful. As a bigger person who is not famous, I am still in the public eye and can feel judged when out and about; being at the clothing store, the food store, heaven-for-bid a gym. What we can take from Melissa McArthy is, stop worrying about other peoples opinion so much. So what if they think bad things? You already know what they are and you can’t change them. People are judgemental. Deal with it.
What you can do is worry about yourself. Take the time to relax, decompress, and self reflect. Make goals that you want to follow and make sure they are achievable and short term, as well as have a long term goal for direction.
The bottom line is, there are some real judgy fuckers out there, but you can still have your red carpet moment, and look damn good doing it too.
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