Negative Self Talk
Have you ever caught yourself looking in the mirror criticizing yourself? Maybe you decided to go on a diet and while you’re cheating on it say horrible names to yourself? Perhaps you have had the opportunity of love and have denied yourself because of how you feel about yourself?
All of this is negative self talk, and we have all been guilty of it from time to time. It’s human nature to get frustrated when things don’t go our way and it is human nature to lash out when this happens. Unfortunately lashing out can take the form of being down right mean to yourself. It is perfectly fine, even healthy, to tell yourself you need to do better, but there is a line that once crossed is classified as self harm.
A great way to stay away from too much self criticism is to understand how much you can handle all at once. If you have a stressful job, need to quit smoking, want to lose weight, are getting engaged in the next year, so on and so forth, it is easy to get overwhelmed and once something starts to fall apart everything else seems too much to handle. You have to learn how to pick and chose what is most important first, smoking is pretty unhealthy but changing both habits of smoking and overeating is a fast way to failure.
The best way to feel accomplished and actually get things done is to have one or two big goals put in place over the next year, such as lose 50 pounds and start your business. Do some research and make a timeline for getting things done such as the amount of weight you have to lose each month and what steps you have to take for your business. Pepper in small goals throughout the year to help with the satisfaction like starting a new hobby like gardening or painting, maybe make a date for when you want to repaint the porch, start collecting bottles so you can have a little extra cash for later.
Making a list of what you want to accomplish is a great start but unless you have a plan of action it is easy to become overwhelmed and give up. Making a timeline for when things need to be accomplished will actually help get the ball rolling so that the goals you set out can get done. When a timeline isn’t established the end of your goal or project is open leaving room for procrastination and excuses for not actually doing it.
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