Accountability vs Punishment
To be accountable: To be responsible means to be answerable for something within one's power or control. Notice the two aspects of this definition – the ability to control plus being able to answer for something. To be accountable means to be subject to giving an account or having the obligation to report, explain or justify something.
Punishment: Punishment is the act of inflicting a consequence or penalty on someone as a result of their wrongdoing, or the consequence or penalty itself.
During your weight loss journey it is important to be able to keep yourself accountable, but not punish yourself. Punishment of self can lead to weight loss failure and a further development of a bad relationship with food. To keep yourself accountable you can have a weight loss buddy, someone to help keep a positive environment through the ups and downs of weight loss as well as someone to report your progress to.
I myself have a food diary and my Emotionally Focussed Eating Program support. I have never liked getting friends involved in my weight loss attempts because they just can’t provide the advice/sympathy/understanding that I need. The food diary helps me keep track of literally everything I am eating but also my emotional state of the day and how I feel about my weight. The Emotionally Focussed Eating Program support has kept me accountable and sane throughout this process. Through talking to someone who understands how difficult it is to overcome a sugar addiction and know what it is like to entirely change your own behaviour I have learned how to stay positive and not let myself punish myself with abusive negative self talk and emotional eating.
Staying accountable with your weight loss means writing everything down and having a conversation with yourself, whether the day was bad or good. Punishing yourself for the mistakes you have made, or even getting angry at your body for not losing weight faster looks like negative self talk, hurting yourself, excessive drinking, excessive exercising, excessive eating, etc.
When something doesn’t go your way remind yourself that it takes a long time to change the habits and behaviour that you have developed. Write down how you are feeling, the problem that made you feel this way, how you got there, what you can do to fix it now, what you can change so it doesn’t happen in the future. Force yourself to say some positive self affirmations like, ‘even though I cheated on the diet, I love myself and I am okay.’ or ‘even though I did not lose the weight I wanted to this week, I love myself, and I will continue to take care of myself.’
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