What happens when you start to lose the weight?
There are some significant emotional, psychological, and social, things that happen when it is that you actually really do start to look different. Once you start to lose the weight, within yourself you will start to feel different. Fat does not happen to drop off from the outside in, it actually works the opposite way, from the inside out. This means that you will start to feel like your fat has no support, that it is actually really hanging off of you, it feels strange and weird, like it shouldn’t actually really be feeling that way. This feeling creates anxiety, the anxiety that there is something wrong and if you are not prepared for this anxiety then it actually triggers your need for self care, and to get back to how it is that you were feeling before; safe and secure. It is important to be able to work against that anxiety, to be able to know that the weight loss is a good thing, and that your internal structure of support has been eroded, therefore of course it is going to feel uncomfortable and that is a good thing.
Next, is that people outside of yourself are going to take notice, but unfortunately people do not associate weight loss with health, they associate weight loss with illness. This creates two things to happen, one is that they want to to get back to the way in which you looked before so they start to purchase pizza’s and doughnuts in order to help you get back to how they see you. The second is that because they don’t know what to say, for fear that it might be illness, they have a tendency not to say anything.
If you are in a competitive environment, meaning that you are competing with the people around you for power, prestige, position, etc., then these people will have a tendency not to notice your weight loss because they do not want to acknowledge your betterment. Those that are actually your friends will be interested on the other hand, and they will want to acknowledge the fact that you are actually looking good and they will say so. It is important to recognize the difference between the two, because if you are in a competitive environment and you are expecting praise and that praise does not come, then you might feel like all of your progress has been a waste of time, sending you into doing exactly what your competition wants you to do, which is to go back to the way in which you were before, making them feel good. It is good to know who your friends are and who your competitors are, and to know the difference between the two.
Instead of relying upon others it is important to rely upon not only your goals, but how it is that you see yourself when you look in the mirror. You are way more attuned to your body weight than anybody else. You can see a five pound difference and when you are attuned to your body you can feel a five pound difference. People who are ‘looks based’ can see a five pound difference in others and those people will say so, but the majority of those outside of ourselves are not looks based and they will not be able to see your fifty pound weight loss never mind your five pound weight loss or weight gain.
So it is really good not to rely upon others. You need to be able to rely upon and depend upon yourself to keep you on the straight and narrow.
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