The other day someone said to me, “but how am I going to be held accountable? You want me to keep a food diary, but what is it that’s going to force me into writing everything down? What is it that’s going to force me to keep on track?”
This conversation had to do with a woman that continually loses 20 pounds and then has an episode where she eats something based in sugar, feels the cravings the next day. This, says to her that everything is now lost and immediately she starts to re-gain the 20 pounds plus, back. This is not the first time I have heard a story like this.
So what is accountability?
Accountability is about taking ownership for the commitments you have chosen to make. So, first and foremost it is about making the commitment, setting the goal that you are now taking on this new lifestyle. It is important for you to be able to recount your goals for yourself each and every day and each and every moment of each and every day. Accountability is not a one time thing. Those that don’t want to be held accountable are always looking for opportunities to get out of the commitment. When accountability is not accepted then what happens is when something gets in the way or there is a slip up, they start to go into spectator mode and watch as things start to fail, and the reason is because they are actually thinking before they make the commitment, that it’s going to fail. A self-sabotaging mode in which they actually get to say, “I told you so!”
Self-sabotage is based in self-hatred, and if this is you, it means that it is really important to have that dealt with first, so that instead of self-sabotage you can start down the accountability path in order to be able take ownership if things start to go wrong. And then instead of stepping into spectator mode, you step into solution mode, meaning that not only do you want to fix it because you care, but it also means you want to be successful. But first, you need to be set up to be successful, you need to have everything that you need in order to be successful.
For some, just being told that you are now accountable works, but this doesn’t actually work for everyone. That is why it is really important to make sure that you are provided with whatever it is that you need or might be missing, because without it you wont be able to be accountable. Review sessions are important, these are check ins to see how everyone is doing and be provided with what is needed in order to fill in the gaps of what it is that might be missing. There is no clear and consistent strategy that works for everyone.
So, what I am going to offer is an accountability section where you can email in and I will provide the accountability factor. This will be your opportunity to get support in case things start to go awry, as well as the offering of praise and encouragement in order to be able to move you further. Accountability is the biggest differentiator between being successful and being unsuccessful in attaining your commitment. Email me! I can’t wait to hear from you.
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