Identifying your core values
Everything that we do, say, and are, is about our core values. Our values are distinct and about who it is that we are in our authentic way of being. Our core values are also based in our emotional way of being. It is important to be able to get in touch with what your emotions really are. When you pay attention to your emotions and acknowledge them then you have the opportunity to be in control of them. It is then that you are in control of what those emotions will conduct how you will behave.
Therefore, when you are in control of what you think then you have choices of what you would like to do about how you feel, and as a result be able to decide what you do about them in what you end up doing.
The function of emotion is to motivate behaviour, and generally speaking we have a tendency to just go along and not be aware of our underlying emotions. The only time that we have a tendency to become aware of our emotions, is when we are not paying attention to how we are feeling, and we are not doing what it is that they are telling us to do.
So, in regards to emotional eating it is not about taking the emotion out of eating, it is about choosing our emotions that motivate our impulse to eat. So therefore, we have two choices; we can either choose to be based in the emotions of either pain or fear, or on the other hand be based in what our core values dictate.
These emotions of pain or fear are what people have a tendency to label as hurt. Hurt is actually defined as a combination of depression mixed with fear. Our core hurts are based in our feeling of lacking something, in which we devalue ourselves. When we are in this place it is exhausting, we feel tired, we are looking to distract ourselves, we become confused.
Core hurt eating is based in negative emotions such as; feeling disregarded, unimportant, guilty, shamed, devalued or disrespected, rejected, powerless, inadequate or unloveable. These feelings are based in the need to overeat. The difficulty is that when the eating stops the hurts come back and could actually feel worse.
On the other hand, when you eat based upon your core values, then the result is that you are always in control of what you are feeling and therefor what you are doing. Core values are based in a sense of self, competence, growth, creativity, health, nurturing, well being and self- compassion.
The goal is to be able to value yourself more and therefore when your core values are in control, you are in control of your subconscious motivation. When this occurs behaviour changes to the need of well being of healing, self-correction, the need to improve, build and rebuild.
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