Fear or Fantasy
Fear is to do with what it is that you imagine as real, meaning that you are creating your own experience by projecting something negative into your future, creating a movie in your mind. The brain actually really can’t tell the difference between a real event, an imagined event, or even a story you have been told about you and your history. We use our imagination for good or evil, so you can use your imagination to scare yourself or calm yourself. It is good to recognize that fear creates ambivalence, and ambivalence is to do with being neither here nor there, you can be in or you can be out, and as such when ambivalent you don’t take action, you are really not all in because deep down you are afraid of the pain of the change to be healthy. Looking at the zero to ten scale, the number 5 is ambivalence, anything below 5 is avoidance and anything above 5 is commitment.
In commitment, you use your mental power to visualize motivations to succeed. Anything below 6 it is important to recognize that you use your mental power of visualization to be afraid. Fears are self created, and the reality is that you do have the power to change them, you can visualize a positive outcome and on the other hand you can choose to self-sabotage. To visualize a positive outcome you have to be able to imagine a picture of what you do want. Many people are afraid to take action because they are afraid to fail, probably because they have failed before. It is important to realize that failure is a way in which we learn. We learn by bouncing off the walls. We do not learn by going in a straight line. When we bounce off the walls we gain in experience, which in turn gives us wisdom.
Success is determined by how we define failure. If you are still trying to succeed in your weight loss journey then you have to redefine failure as feedback. Therefore, if you have had difficulties in the past with weight management, the important thing to recognize is that it actually really wasn’t failing, it was to do with learning. So therefore, you need to be able to redefine failures in the past by accepting the attempts that you have made, and the fact that each of those has created learning. The reality is, that in order to be able to attain what you really want is the fact that you need to be able to accomplish personal growth work. Personal growth work deals with the route cause of the reason behind why you have not been able to succeed. It is important to be able to acknowledge what you have learned, despite the failures of the past and be able to congratulate yourself for the fact you have tried to take action.
It is important to recognize that in these failed attempts you have gained in significant feed-back to be able to know what works for you and also, what does not.