The Head, The Heart And The Body
There are three different ways in which we process. The head is to do with our cognitive processing, the heart is to do with how we feel, and the body is to do with our somatic processing. The head is to do with how it is that we tell ourselves good, as well as bad stories, our good thoughts as well as our bad thoughts. This is to do with how we make sense cognitively. This is to do with the brain and how the brain processes. Our left brain is to do with the logistics and the numerics. The right brain is to do with the artistics, the story telling, anfd the feelings. Feelings are to do with the hear and now of how the heart processes. The heart has to do with whatever it is that is happening in the here and now and how it feels. This is a completely different processing system then the head.
The heart tells important information in regards to the story of what it is that has happened. It is a sensory guide. The body as well is a sensory guide and gives important information in regards to the sensory component. The heart might long for it, whereas the body might crave it. The body tells a bodily story based upon history and experience. The body remembers the bodily sensory experiences of when bad things have happened or when previous needs have not been met, especially in regards to food. If food equals belonging and love, and when these experiences have not been met, especially in conjunction with bad things that have happened to the body, then the body longs for theses good feelings, feel it to your core. These are experiences of deprivation in which the body needs to be filled, and if you feel the need to eat and eat and eat, it means that the body has been deprived of belonging or has experienced trauma, at some point along your journey.
The head might make sense of it, by rationalizing it or by having either negative of mixed feelings. The heart on the other hand, might make emotional sense of it, and also might end up with negative or mixed feelings. Yet the body always remembers when it was that there was a sense of desperation and/or the longing for attachment. These attachment deprivations are huge, and the body needs to fill them in one way or another, so if the body can not fill the void literally, it fills the void metaphorically and finds what it needs in order to fill the void with the much longed for need of belonging.
The need for belonging replaces the need of another attachment figure with that of food. Food becomes a new attachment figure and by eating the void gets filled. The negative feelings, the empty feelings, whether they be feelings of being bored or sad, disappear, and the food fills the void. The brain might say “stop” the heart might say “stop” but the truth is the body rules the day because it is the body that is longing for the attachment.
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