What’s an affirmation and how do I say them without feeling silly?
An affirmation is a state of being affirmed, the assertion that something exists or is true. An example of an affirmation is ‘I know what I am doing.’ When do you need use an affirmation? Sometimes, you have to use an affirmation in the moment or repetitively, like every morning, afternoon, and night. An example of when to use an affirmation in the moment, is when you are being challenged, for example, when you are in your high school cooking class and everyone is telling you that you are rolling the sushi incorrectly. You can take the criticism, even though you know it what they are saying is wrong, and you can affirm yourself, ‘I know what I am doing.’ and complete the task correctly.
You can also use affirmations more consistently. Even if you are not religious, affirmations can be used as a kind of prayer to yourself, it’s a way of checking in and confirming with yourself that you are or can achieve (insert whatever you want to be here). Affirmations have a bad rap for being what the hippie outside of the supermarket trying to get you to sign their leaflet uses to confirm to themselves that it is okay not to use soap, but this isn’t the case. I used to think and feel really silly trying to affirm myself, I would try looking in the mirror (yes, sometimes naked) and tell myself positive things. I would always end up scoffing and feeling stupid, I would think about all the people who would ridicule me if they ever found out I had the audacity to look in the mirror and tell myself I’m pretty. Geez! What a weirdo for trying to get self esteem!
Recently, I have decided to give affirmations to myself and to try again. Every morning I wake up, look in the mirror, and no matter what the result, if my eyes are dark and baggy, if my hair is a mess and greasy, if a new zit just popped up on my upper lip, I say ‘well, hello there.’ in a very deep sensual voice (1, because I think it’s funny, 2, because I really do mean it and 3, why not?). I can get very down on myself and feel very stressed out about my path, where I’m going, what I’m doing, and of course how it all fits or doesn’t fit into the cogs of the world. Recently however, when I start to feel the uncertainty crawl in and lear at myself from the dark spaces of my mind, I will say a few affirmations such as, ‘I am on the right path.’ or, ‘I am doing my best and it is enough.’ or my favourite, ‘I know what I am doing.’. I have not been saying them for long, but I really do feel better when I do.
I have also applied them to my weight loss journey. Recently I have broken through a plateau and I am steam rolling towards my goal. Now I am not saying that there isn’t more work to losing weight than just looking at yourself and telling yourself that you are beautiful, but it can be a big part. Why not tell yourself your beautiful? Why not say that you are one sexy beast when you get on the scale regardless of the number that pops up? Why not take that step in feeling good about yourself and your body before the final result? Saying affirmations out loud isn’t a magic wand to get you what you want, but they can be the gold nuggets that make your journey fun, effective, and enriching.
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