What is emotion dysregulation?
Having a relationship with a positive healthy figure is important for those that have problems regulating emotion. Emotion dysregulation is caused by two factors; emotional sensitivity and the inability to achieve balance. When an environment is invalidating, emotion dysregulation can occur.
When an environment responds unpredictably, deny’s or responds inappropriately to the experience of emotion, physical sensations and thoughts, with the resulting sense of judgement, minimizing, punishing, ignoring or being told that they are wrong, this invalidating environment teaches how to alternate between stifling or stuffing emotions and exploding or vomiting emotions. This is emotion dysregulation.
This is a set up for failure, a fractured sense of self resulting in self-invalidation. Skills of emotion regulation and problem solving have not been learned, and feelings of being misunderstood will result. This also results in patterns of difficulties maintaining relationships, regulating emotions and impulse control.
Individuals who have a tendency to engage in disordered eating behaviors, also have a tendency to have the inability to regulate their emotions. Unfortunately, when this occurs the person is unable to accurately monitor, assess, accept and change their emotional experiences without engaging in self-destructive behavior.
There are three principles that are very important in order to overcome unhealthy or self-destructive behavior. The first is to realize that everything is interconnected. The second is to realize that reality is in the process of continuous change, and third, is to realize that truth is always evolving. Being able to recognize that all points of view have aspects of being valid as well as aspects of being incorrect, means that different perspectives can be identified, validation will occur, and therefore the individual will not get caught up and confused, and therefore will be able to now live more effectively and a more emotionally regulated and balanced life.
Not everyone grows up knowing how to manage their emotions and solve problems, everyone wants to know how to reduce suffering and increase happiness in a healthy manner.
You must learn how to be your own agent self, and be your own agent of change. You can not rely upon or depend upon anyone else to make these changes for you. You need to be able to solve your own problems in order to learn the skills you need, even if you are not the cause of the problem. Even if it is not your fault that you are the way you are, if you do not work towards solving your problems, nothing will change and you will continue to suffer.
Even if you have difficulties in regulating your emotions, many of you have managed to succeed in your family or your profession. It doesn’t mean that you can necessarily transfer these skills to other areas of life. Learning how to regulate emotions and problem solve have to be applied to different areas of life, including stressful situations when emotions are highly intense within your environment.
It is good to remember that your attempts at loosing weight in the past are not because you failed the diet, it is because that diet failed you.
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