Connecting Our Values
When you harbour bad feelings about yourself we have a tendency to get confused that what we are really saying to ourselves, is that we are worthless. The truth is, that those bad feelings are trying to connect you with the notion that you are actually worth more. So, therefore based upon this way of looking at self is that better care and more self-compassion is needing to be implemented. Self value is a feeling, that something is important and worthy of appreciation. Everything that we do and everything that we say is reflective of our values and as well, everything that we eat and the way that we eat is also reflective of our values.
Our values are driven by an unconscious motivational system, and these values can be in competition with one another. For example, I might value looking fit but I also might value eating chocolate. Values that are strong in sensory attractive taste, sight, smell, will prevail, because they get in touch with our subconscious and our subconscious is based in feeling states.
Strong sensory values create images in our minds of past experiences and emotions that connect and resonate with us from our past, creating a deep sense of connection. Weight management is a conscious endeavour while, deeper values and strong sensory values are linked with the subconscious. In order to make a weight management strategy, a strong value to this effect would mean that we have to get in touch with our health and well being in regards to food preferences. So then, when life, health, and well-being become important as a value is when we look at food intake, we have look at food differently.
It is good to be able to get in touch with the food items that you crave or connect with or have a tendency to have in your fridge or cupboard no matter what. The reason why that those foods are there is because those foods provide the strong sensory attractions of taste, sight, and smell that you value. In order to change these sensory attractions, you would have to be able to look at those foods differently. It is good to think about when you do look at that food, perhaps that chocolate bar in front of you, what are the images that come into your mind as you see, smell, and taste it?
To create a connection that interferes with that strong sensory attraction, would mean that instead of looking at that those foods, based upon taste sight and smell, you would then have to look at those food choices differently. By going into your feelings in a unconscious level you would have to be able to change this to stay in your conscious brain. You would need to be able to connect with the component of the food item that is not healthy. If you change your way of looking at these foods by looking at these food choices to that of what they are really composed of, then you will be able to connect with these food choices differently.
Your vulnerability to these food choices is when it is that you fool yourself into thinking that those food items are life, health, and well being. Also, if you get into negative feelings of guilt, shame, or negative self thoughts, such as being unloveable or inadequate or if you get into your anxiety (which is the fear that if you don’t eat this food now you will never get to eat it), then these are the times you are vulnerable to overeating or attacking food that is taking away from life, health, and wellbeing.
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