Failed Weight Loss Attempts
If you’ve had failed weight loss attempts, then this is really important for you to consider. If you have been enrolled in programs and not succeeded, then this most probably has added to feelings of guilt and shame, and loss, which in turn can add to feelings of failure. These feelings of failure can feel like they are enormous and unsurmountable, like as if you are broken, and these are painful feelings that can add in frustration over many years.
There is an essential human desire to belong. This need for belonging is a need to have like- minded people that you can relate to that have had similar experiences in which you can share. It is important to be able to feel like you are not only successful but that you are part of a group, that there are others like you, that you are not alone and that you have others around you and that they are with you and care for you.
Taking on a new lifestyle is really just that, and it is important to have some sort of support system. Don’t underestimate that piece. Having a support system is a tool that will allow you to be able to highlight your successes and will in turn make your results last. Your environment impacts your habits and behaviours and this is highlighted by the people that you have surrounding you. Once you recognize who it is that you have surrounding you, then you have the opportunity to be able to decide who it is that you want to be, because those that surround us have a tendency to also define us.
A study published in the New England Journal Of Medicine looked at social networks. This study showed that if a friend becomes obese your chances of doing the same increase by 57%. If your spouse becomes obese, the likely hood that you will also increases by 37%. This is to do with homeostasis, and homeostasis is about maintaining a norm. When we sit down at the dinner table as a family, family members start to eat the exact same amount of food no matter how tall you are, no matter what gender you are, no matter what age you are. This is because we relate to one another through food.
As we grow older we want to unravel those patterns in order to be our best, to be healthy, and pursue our own goals. The truth is, in order to overcome this need of homeostasis we need to involve our social network, to be like-minded people who also too want to maintain the new healthy lifestyle, so that we have within our immediate circle people who are on our team. We need to take a look at the relationships around us that encourage our most unhealthiest habits as well as those that are greatest allies.
You do need to be able to speak up for yourself and not remain silent, be able to open up a conversation in regards to the new lifestyle and be able to state it clearly. It is okay to want to change to live a healthier life. People worry that they will offend someone and sometimes people don’t want to share because they have failed in the past and don’t want to discuss the new lifestyle, until they are sure they are going to succeed this time. It is important to talk about your goals and your wanted outcomes, in order to reshape conversations and be secure with who it is that you not only want to be but have decided that you are going to be.
The other day when I pulled out my hard boiled egg, my colleague asked me, “are you just eating light? Or are you one keto?” and I said proudly, “I’m on Keto!” and she said, “Oh! someone I know has been on Keto and they have done really well.” Yes, I thought, and me too!
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