I am a very goal oriented person, I like to write down my expectations for myself so I have something I can work towards instead of moving blindly in the dark. I do this with work, school work, reading, and especially weight. I love to write down weight goals so I know I am progressing.
My friend however, told me that people who set goals fail the goals more often then people who do not set goals, for example; New Years Resolutions.
I believe that whether you write them down or not, everyone has goals. Yes, the people who didn’t have goals written down are less likely to fail at them and that is, well, because if you don’t have them written down (or at least have spoken about them out loud for someone to hear) you are not accountable for them, they are just a secret little thing that if they don’t work out you don’t have to feel like a failure because no one knew they existed.
Just like when you keep your weight loss attempts a secret, so no one knows if you are progressing or not. Or if you want to quit smoking, drinking, gambling, whatever. You don’t want others to know that either you had the problem to begin with, and that you are now secretly trying to solve it before someone catches on, or you don’t want them to know what your goals are, so you can’t be held accountable.
Goals are amazing, because you are being future focussed and planning ahead. You are making a decision, you are taking conscious steps in the direction that you want to go. I can’t even imagine what weight loss would be like without goals. Even if you don’t want to record your weight, there is still the need to make a goal, eat healthier, exercise, even something as minuscule as not going to your favourite restaurant so many times a week, is a goal.
Hoping to lose weight is not enough.
Results show that those who weigh themselves consistently do a better job maintaining their weight loss. One of the tasks of the Emotionally Focussed Eating Program is to record your weight, your daily food intake, your emotions, your past self and looking ahead to your future self changing beliefs. Being able to identify how it is that you looked at life when you were doing what you were doing to keep you stuck, and then being able to identify how you will need to look at yourself going forward is a document (a map) for yourself to follow.
SMART goals are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timely. Good to identify your goals in such a manner. My suggestion is daily and then weekly, then longer term. My goal is to participate in daily food journalling with the goal of daily lowering of carbohydrate intake, then weekly weigh-ins and long term, lose 50 lbs in a year. By the way that is my New Years Resolution too!
My friend on the other hand had weightless surgery, didn’t tell anyone and then maintained all and more of her weight afterwards. So, what does that say?
On the quest to lose 50 pounds in a year. Can she do it? Only time will tell....with the help of this blog.