Okay! So, I believe my personality motivation is #1 heart and #2 doer! As a person who processes based on feelings I would say that I am social, warm, and caring and I am tuned into others. As a doer I am down to earth, adaptable, and I enjoy taking on things where all of my senses are engaged. In having my family describe me this description of me was totally aligned.
My mother on the other hand, I would say is more processes by using her gut (and remember the gut is actually the second brain of the body). People who listen to their gut are also called intuitors they pay attention to impressions, they have a tendency to be creative and imaginative and they also solve problems based on their gut reaction. She is also a doer because she is a hard worker, sometimes even referred to as a workaholic. My dad on the other hand I would say processes cognitively so he is more a head person, he is analytical, objective, as well as skeptical. He balances pros and cons and the truth to him is more important sometimes than being tactful.
What is really important to remember is the essence of your personality is actually quit orderly and consistent and so it is really important to pay attention to how it is that you process in order for you to be able to know yourself, know others in order not to be blind sided. We think that people have random variations in behaviour and feelings but the truth is we have a basic truth principle of how we look at things, how we fell about things, and what we do about things, and we all have blind spots. Blind spots are actually holes in our memory that we just can’t see through which means that we can’t connect to our resources in order to positively and supportively get where we need to go with any difficulty that has come our way and these blind spots are magnified when under stress and in conflict. So remember, our greatest asset can also be our greatest weakness.
So for myself I can sometimes not pay attention to my own boundaries and that I put the need for harmony above what is most important for my needs and that I can take things too personally sometimes and that I do not look ahead at long term benefits because I can get stuck in the here and now. I think what is really important in recognizing that we all have different ways in which we process that by paying attention to them we can realize that we have a range of responses that we can use.
So as much as it is that I am a heart processor as well as a doer I need to get in touch more with my head in order to be able to be more precise in regards to my diet, to be more clear in regards to my long term goal, to identify with the pros and the cons and the cause and effect of what it is that I am doing. As a doer i enjoy the cooking process, I enjoy getting in touch with my five senses and unfortunately if i engage that too much I can direct myself towards food in order to satisfy those needs whereas perhaps I need to pay more attention to my gut instincts to transfer that creative energy into other inventive ideas.
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