Second Day

The Difference Between Feeling Good And Looking Good.

Hi there protein puppies! Today I wanted to talk about the difference of value systems. Have you ever caught yourself thinking, 'I feel bad about the way I look, so I guess I eat to make myself feel better, but then I feel bad for eating again.' The thing I want to point out about this statement is that it is all based in feelings. 
There are two types of people, those who value comfort and those who value looking good. People who are based in comfort tend to be emotional eaters. They want to feel comfortable so when they feel bad they substitute the feeling of happiness and security with eating.
People who's value system is based in looking good are better equipped with dealing with emotions that make them feel uncomfortable, such as stress, anger, or other forms of being emotionally disturbed because they are not based in feeling, they are based in thinking. Thinkers are actually based in rules and as such they look at eating more to do with rules than to do with feeling at all. You can always tell a person who is based in looking good because they do just that; they are dressed to the nines, their hair is perfectly quaffed, and their body is slim.  People who are based in comfort look very much like that. They have a tendency to wear sweat pants, baggy clothes, and have a tendency to be overweight. 
Okay, so what are you? 
100% Comfort                                                                                                                               100% Looks
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Where would you like to be?
​What is great about the Emotionally Focussed Eating program is that you are taught how to deal with uncomfortable feelings. You slowly learn how to change your value system from constantly trying to sooth yourself to being aware of how you feel, what you do to cope with those feelings, and how this affects your physical, mental, and emotional health and what the rules are to look good.

I know that for myself, at the disregard of my mother, I rocked the grunge look for many years. Everything for me was about being comfortable. I dressed all in frumpy, dark coloured clothes. I remember at one point I wore ten necklaces at once and wore a scarf as a belt with a vest and what not, when I say rocked I mean I was on a long bumpy road without four wheel drive. I looked like I lived in a cave, and for the most part, I did. Many of my days were spent in the basement, either watching TV or on my computer, or both. Comfort was my middle name.
With the help of Dr. Laurie I learned how to really take care of my physical appearance, I want my nails to look clean; if my polish is chipping, I take it off. I now start my day with artfully styling my hair. I'm looking at knew fashion, new makeup, new, new, new. And you know what? I feel like half the time it actually takes my mind off food. And the other half of the time when I go to eat something that isn't in the plan or I go for an extra portion size, my new style helps me stop and think, "Does what I'm about to do suite the new me?"